Occasionally, students or others send questions via email or social media and they are answered. Here is one that may be of general interest:
Only the one who has realized his true self who is free from ego and body mind breath identifications can understand and speak the truth and guide. All others are only speaking about concepts and second hand knowledge. Therefore, how can they guide others?
To answer your question, let me tell you a story—which you may have already heard but it bears repeating. There was man who, during a flood, climbed onto the roof of his house. He began praying fervently to God to save him. After some time, a firefighter came by with a long ladder to help him down but the fellow on the roof waved him away because he was praying to God to save him. The water continued to rise and soon was almost at the level of the roof. The man prayed more and more fervently. Soon, a person came in a boat and shouted, “save yourself, jump into my boat and I’ll take you to safety!” But the fellow on the roof wouldn't go because he wanted God to save him. The water was flowing rapidly now and came up over the roof and the fellow climbed to the top of his chimney—the only dry place—and prayed with all his heart and mind and concentration. Soon a helicopter came and lowered a basket and the Coast Guard soldier shouted down to get in the basket and we will haul you to safety.” But this fellow didn't go. He was waiting for God to save him. Soon the flood swept the fellow away and he drowned. Then he found himself as a soul in the presence of God and was upset and said, “why didn’t you save me when I prayed to you?” God said, I sent a fireman with a ladder, a man with a boat and a helicopter with a basket. What more did you want?
The idea is that the unembodied, timeless Guru can teach us in many ways, through many people, and especially through initiated teachers. If you refuse all the help that comes to you, insisting that the Guru personally appear before you, you may miss essential lessons and have a very long wait.
As mentioned in a previous response to your questions, very few people ever came into the presence of Swami Rama, and almost nobody spent more than a few moments in that presence. The Guru can teach through many means and one does not need to be in his or her presence to be guided. Most teaching occurs out of the presence of the Gurudeva.
Finally, do consider that it is said in the Traditions that “when the student is ready, the Master appears.” So do the absolute maximum in your power to overcome your problems and do the practices you’ve been granted with full devotion, strength and with a positive, devotional attitude, and, only when you are “ready” will the Master appear. Before then you can search and search and possibly not find.