For most of my life, until recently, I had a bad habit. The habit was this: when a train of thought arose that I knew from the start would lead downward into unhappiness and upset, I felt like I had to stay with these thoughts and argue with them to defeat or understand them.
Only recently have I learned that if a train of thought is leading in the wrong direction, I don’t have to stay with it.
At times I’ve traveled in countries where trains are a common mode of travel. If I accidentally boarded a train traveling in the wrong direction, I wouldn’t stay on it. Rather, I’d step down and find a train going to my intended destination.
But somehow, when the train was a series of thoughts in my mind, I felt bound to finish the ride.
Observing this tendency in myself, I noticed that when I stick with the train of thought in this way, it invariably leads me through a painful and time wasting journey, which, at best, I abandon at the end, having wasted precious time that can never be recaptured.
So why not abandon it at the beginning? This is my new commitment.
How about you?