This article is graciously provided for republication by the author, Dr. Dinesh Sharma, an Ayurvedacharya, consultant Vastu Master, Vedic Astrologer and Ayurvedic Physician and teacher in the Himalayan Tradition of Yoga and Meditation for more than 30 years.
Love is an effort to complement the unfinished aspect of our spiritual being. It is the cool shadow of a tree in the vast desert of life. Love is about aligning the energy field in our whole being. It is God's way to convey to us that He loves us and since He does not exist in a physical form, He does it through other physical bodies created by Him. No wonder, when the flame of love lights in one's heart, it starts spreading its warmth all around. This is the reason why love never dies. Complexities and insecurities of mind may temporarily suppress it, but the power of love remains eternal.
When two lovers hug and kiss each other for the first time, there is an intense synergic exchange between them. It thrills and charges the two in a mysterious way and makes them feel 'high'. When two people meet, connect and 'rise' in love, the synergy between them is too strong and intense.
For most of us, it may be painful to see a beautiful relationship fizzling away. One needs to understand that there is a definite design behind someone's presence and absence in our lives. A person matures in life after going through a process of suffering. Pain always affects us on a much deeper level than pleasure. The pleasure takes us out, but the pain brings us in. An experience that brings us in enriches us the most.
If someone decides to go away, then there is a divine mystery behind that. Divinity wants you to move ahead. What is good for you will certainly manifest. Don't sulk if the path is torturous. Understand the message. Surrender yourself to divine intervention. It's going to benefit you in the long run. Maybe there is something better and beautiful going to open through this painful process. Endure the pain.
If someone wants to go, don't try to hold him back. Love is about giving and not claiming. Love is unconditional and eternal. The essential purpose of love is liberation -- from bondages and attachments. If love is about pinning someone on the board, then it's not love. It reflects insecurity and possessiveness.
Cherish the beautiful moments a relationship has brought you. Thank the divinity for enriching your life through such a beautiful experience. Thank the divinity in that person for sharing his or her love.
Hold no grudge. Just flow in love, in divinity.
People on the path of sadhana do not suffer from such separations. They go for an inwardly union in which there is never a split. Understanding the phenomenon of Purusha (masculine energy) and Shakti (feminine energy), they marry them in an eternal bond of togetherness.
A sadhaka experiences an intense divine exaltation, when he or she is able to unite energies through yogic practices. The Kundalini Shakti is the feminine energy that dwells in the Mooladhara Chakra or perineum. Purusha is the masculine energy and lives in the Sahsrar Chakra or the crown. A sadhaka has to first learn to clear the energy path between perineum and the crown through sadhana under an experienced master. There are no quick fixes to this. To some it may require a whole life to understand Kundalini, as these yogic practices are serious, intense and honest.
If one is punctual, regular, sincere, faithful and patient, then the energy path starts disentangling. It's only then that Kundalini -- the most beautiful feminine energy -- wakes up and starts moving up to meet Purusha — her eternal divine love. Then one starts dwelling in the state of eternal love, which is beyond sufferings, breakups or separations.